Love and sex fear of the unknown
Love and fear are separated by a towering wall of separation that prevents them from meeting. In the relationship you seek, you must always choose between two things: a partner who loves you, or a partner who fears you. Therefore, I advise you from a loving heart not to fill your marital relationship with fears, and not to confuse marriage with love. The presence of marriage does not mean the presence of love, but unfortunately, marriage in Eastern societies is often built on the foundations of intimidation, threats, suspicion, and spite; how far that is from love.
What is love, and what is its relationship to sex? Does love breed lust, or are they two separate things? These are all questions we will answer in today's article, along with many other questions related to love, sex, and their connection.
Introduction to the relationship between love and sex:
Even if you are making love, even if you are in a sexual relationship, it does not mean love exists. It is just the meeting of bodies, nothing more, and love is far from that. In the presence of love, fear fades and disappears, and fear of successive situations and reactions gradually creeps in, taking its place among the many feelings that rain down on us every day. It starts small, then grows and grows and grows until it takes over us. We start to fear small things, like someone getting upset with us, or not being the right social shape, or our desires not being in line with theirs, or expressing our opinions on a matter and angering others, to the point that we are afraid to say a word of truth, a word of honesty.
And here love withers and withdraws, and to be more honest, it was not there from the beginning.
If love were true, there would be a meeting of the inner spiritual centers between you and your partner, and fear would never find its way into your heart, except in its simple, healthy form, which serves to protect you and motivate you to grow, nothing more. Eventually, you reach a more complex form: the fear of loss, of status, of inclusion, of losing your partner. And finally, you fear life itself, and we dread it.
Therefore, we can say that when a person's life is directed toward love, it makes them a religious and spiritual being. Being shaped by love and making it your goal means not fearing the future, not being afraid of the outcome or the consequences. Living here and now.
When love fills your heart, penetrates your depths, and you draw it from your God, you will live the true meaning of life, which is the moment, here and now.
Does love breed lust?
This is different between men and women. Both experience love and lust within them, but the difference is that for women, lust comes after love and is closely linked to the man they are with. For men, love doesn't necessarily precede lust; it's possible for a man to develop a sense of lust even before he falls in love with a woman. However, there are always exceptions on both sides.
How do we differentiate between love and lust?
In fact, the difference between the two, despite its clarity, is not seen by many people due to their immersion in the relationship, where we can say that love is the feeling that is generated inside us towards the other party without delving into his external appearance or the attractiveness of his body, which makes us completely immerse ourselves in the maze of the other party and drown in his details, while lust comes from our attraction to the external appearance of the other party without looking at his content or soul, or even the extent of his compatibility with us from a psychological, emotional or social perspective.
What is the difference between lust and true love?
We can say that lustful love is the love of another party without looking at the individual as an independent, unique and special person, but rather looking at his gender and his apparent and sexual attractiveness, while true love does not take external appearance or any other factors seriously, as our feeling of connection to that person greatly overwhelms any other considerations. Also, love includes lust, but lust does not include love, and this is a fundamental difference between the two.
In conclusion, we can say that love and sex are two things that are connected in one respect. Love certainly includes lust, but lust does not necessarily include the feeling of love. Feelings of fear, insecurity, tension, and nervousness are all feelings that we may feel with someone with whom we have a lustful relationship, but it is impossible to feel those feelings with someone we love and who loves us.
I hope each of you has your own love story that fills you with positive energy and contentment. Remember, you can seek psychological counseling from Dr. Zeina Sofi for any matter related to your relationship with your life partner, to make it more wonderful and beautiful without any fear or loss.
