Lying in a Relationship – How to Tell if He's Lying to You

How many times have we been told that love cannot be hidden, but can it really be faked or pretended? I hear many stories of deceitful relationships, expertly staged by men, a key element of lying in a relationship on the part of one partner.

How can you know his hidden intentions and the sincerity of his feelings?

The inner psychological world is vast and deep, and it's difficult to penetrate it and discover all its secrets. Therefore, when you're in a relationship, it can sometimes be difficult to distinguish between lies. However, here are some behaviors and traits that appear in a deceitful man, which are indicators that guide you to end the relationship:

• Neglected: Although it is easy to fake and pretend to care, and although the man does this at the beginning of the relationship, his falsehood and pretense are quickly exposed, especially during crises and situations that truly require his attention and presence. This is one of the worst harms of lying in a relationship.
• He doesn't respect your boundaries: He doesn't care about your family's customs and traditions. He breaks and makes fun of them. He doesn't care about your sleeping hours or your privacy. You'll find him interfering in everything, especially the most embarrassing things for you. He asks you about your period and violates all etiquette barriers in his words and actions, even after you've rebuffed him and made it clear you're uncomfortable with his actions. This is because he has predetermined and specific goals. Therefore, lying in a relationship can lead to a lot of conflict and problems.
• Lying about many things, even trivial matters: He always misleads you. You don't take his word for it. Even in the places he's in, he gives false information. He lies repeatedly about his financial situation, his social standing, his past relationships. Despite this, he considers lying in a relationship a total no-no!
• Hypocrite: He tries to woo you for some personal purpose, such as physical contact. If you refuse, he tells you that you don't love or trust him and that this relationship isn't right for him. He does this as a form of psychological pressure to force you to comply with his demands. Sometimes, his relationship with you is for material purposes, such as achieving a certain position, exploiting you financially, or something else.
• Contradictory: He tells you he wants the best for you and stands in the way of your progress, for example, he shows his love for your family and sometimes makes fun of them, he talks to you about religion and ideals and spends his nights at nightclubs drinking alcohol, and many other forms of lying in a relationship.
• Tightness of chest: He has little patience. Whenever there's a dispute or disagreement, he tells you it's over and he's leaving, without regard for your feelings or your relationship. He claims you mean a lot to him, that he loves you, and that he can't live without you. However, all of this can be considered nothing more than a form of lying in a relationship.
• Emotional blackmail machine: One of the traits that should not be overlooked in a deceitful man, and which indicates the prevalence of lying in the relationship, is that he is adept at emotionally blackmailing you by making you feel guilty, and then he plays the role of someone who pities you and accepts your many apologies. But love is far removed from pity and from all that has been mentioned.

Of course, there are many characteristics and indications that point to a man’s lying and the bad state your relationship has reached. There are many forms of lying in a relationship, which can destroy any relationship, whether it is marriage, love, or engagement. All of them are considered very harmful to a woman’s psychological health, because lying in love for women is a sensitive matter, as lying destroys trust between people and leaves no room for love in any relationship, in addition to many psychological problems.

I hope that lying in a relationship doesn't rob you of your self-confidence and self-love, but you can always seek psychological counseling to help you get rid of all your negative memories and psychological complexes caused by the bad people who have passed through your life.